‘Laying Down the Law: The 25 Laws of Parenting to Keep Your Kids on Track, Out of Trouble and (Pretty Much) Under Control’ is not a book for the faint-hearted parent. At the heart its message is that discipline and tough love is the most effective route to turning your kids into the well behaved, self disciplined children you always wanted.
Author Dr. Ruth Peters has over 25 years of experience counselling children and their families, as well as bring up a family of her own. To formulate her laws she draws on her experiences of both to present a book full of wisdom with real life examples to illustrate her points.
The laws in this book are based on common sense. It begins with getting you to establish your own set of values, after all, how can kids behave if you don’t make it clear what is, or is not acceptable? Then you have to become what she calls a ‘Benevolent Dictator’ - kind but your word is final. She will help you to understand why it is vital that you do not cave into your child’s every whim, give in to keep the peace or acquiesce to other families’ values that don’t match your own.
She explains when it is OK to snoop (you’d better have a good reason, but if you do it is OK), why it’s not OK to praise your kids all the time and why you must start to teach your children a work ethic from a young age.
The laws in this book are applicable to children of any age, and can be implemented at any stage, however the younger you start the easier it is for good behaviour to become a habit.
Fundamentally Dr. Peters believes that the reason that so many parents feel that their kids are unmanageable is because they are unable, unwilling or just plain afraid to stand up to their children. This book will help you not only to grasp why it is so vital that you do, but will give you the tools and the motivation to lay down the law to your children.
About the Author: Jacqui O'Brien is the Editor of eParenting.